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How to talk to your friends and family about the climate crisis

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How to talk to your friends and family about the climate crisis
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Bringing up the climate crisis at a dinner party - it's not exactly the most seamless conversation transition. So do you avoid it altogether or confidently speak up?

Environmental matters can often be divisive, with discussions leaving us disheartened, especially if the other party doesn’t share the same convictions. As a result, many of us are reluctant to be the ones to initiate them. A survey done in 2013 in the US found that while two-thirds of people said global warming was personally important to them, only a third were talking about the issue at least occasionally with friends and family. Some of the reasons listed were that it was “too political” or those they spoke to were simply “not interested”.

However challenging it may be, it is important that we talk about it, says the Yale Program on Climate Change Communication. If people concerned about the climate avoid voicing their thoughts because they don’t hear others doing the same, it leads to something they call the “spiral of silence”. We have to make an effort to dive in or that cycle won't be broken.

So how do we broach this often contentious topic? There is no one answer but getting a sense of how others approach the problem can provide some ideas on how to start the conversation.

Conflict with family members

For young people, when their views don’t align with those in their family, discussions about climate change can be a particular source of tension. Nell, a medical student, started to question where her food was coming from and the impact it was having around age 13. After initially changing to a pescatarian diet, then vegetarian, reading more about the environmental impact of dairy eventually led to her becoming vegan.

“There was definitely an initial backlash and a lack of acceptance when I changed my diet in response to the climate crisis,” Nell says.

“My decision to eat plant-based, to my parents, possibly felt like I was rejecting their heritage and the way they were brought up, and shunning it. I wonder whether it ever felt to them that I was rejecting how they'd tried to raise me; bringing up feelings of doubt in their parenting skills, their own moral compasses, and their own social responsibility in regards to the crisis.”

Starting an open, vulnerable conversation is one of the best things you can do.
Nell
18 year old Medical Student

There have been times where she wishes she hadn’t gone vegan, solely for the connection that comes from all sitting around a table and eating the same thing. But this hasn’t discouraged Nell and she thinks that her choices have helped her family to better understand the urgency of the situation. “Starting an open, vulnerable conversation is one of the best things you can do.”

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Sitting down to eat the same meal is an important part of family life.Pexels

“Rather than announcing another change,” Nell suggests, “explain to your family why you're looking so hard to make changes; where you're finding information; naming other people who have done the same as you.” Maybe even incorporate it into time spent together with the people you love by suggesting you watch a documentary together.

And she has some specific advice for anyone still living at home, "If you announce you want to go vegan, you should be prepared for your family to respond in a variety of ways - anger, confusion, rejection, upset. These are all valid feelings, and it's important to remember it comes from the fact that your choice is making your loved ones question their own moral compass. Give it time, and answer as many questions as you can.

“One of the best things you can do is educate!”

The science-based approach

Neil Hardiman, a 60-year-old engineer, uses a scientific approach to talk to people he knows about what can be done to solve the problems we face.

“I mainly seem to meet with scepticism at best,” he says, “I feel humanity has been deep programmed to think negatively about the climate crisis and that needs to change.”

He believes that science and engineering will provide the answers to a lot of problems to help make people’s lives better. When talking to friends and family he points them towards solution based science information.

“A good start has already been made, but it would be good if people could start showing some interest in demanding not just climate change action, but the full restoration of the climate and every other aspect of the biosphere to its natural state.”

A casual discussion over dinner

It isn’t just about facts, open and frank discussion can go a long way to understanding why people have the responses that they do. This is something photographer James Frederick Barrett has found during the dinner parties he organises, where he brings 10 people together to talk about climate change over a meal. He says his mum has come to one of the gatherings where he hosts all kinds of different people, many that he doesn't know quite so well.

“To be honest I was just frustrated that when you’re out with friends or talking to people and you want to talk about climate change because it's going to be a big important part of all of our lives, sometimes it just kills the vibe,” he explains. “People just shut off from it because they don’t want to think about it and you encounter these people in various stages of denial about it.”

It is mostly a 50/50 split between people who are already very knowledgeable about the cause and those that want to know more, he says. But by the end of the dinner, most come away feeling like they have learnt a lot. For James himself, guests talking and sharing their perspectives makes him feel more positive and helps him battle that feeling of eco-anxiety.

Being a good environmentalist is about being informed, prepared and a good listener.
James Frederick Barrett
Photographer

“It’s not about trying to win over everyone, but just about moving the people who do care to stick by their ethics and be effective leaders.

"Most environmentalists mess it up by not keeping a cool head and not listening to others. I have been guilty of this. It’s difficult because once you let the crisis into your heart, fighting it underpins your identity.”

The setting of the dinner party helps to foster casual discussion where everyone’s opinion is valuable, encouraging some to contribute where they might not otherwise do so. “Being a good environmentalist”, he says,” is about being informed, prepared and a good listener.“

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A dinner party can create the right environment to help open discussion.Pexels

Official guidance

The IPCC produced a handbook in 2018 for experts, laying out the best way for them to communicate with the public about the science behind climate change. Although intended for professionals, it has a lot of tips that are applicable to everyday interactions with friends and family. The guide says that, though facts are important, big numbers are often distant from people’s everyday reality.

Instead, it suggests telling a more human story. Who are you? Why are you passionate about what you are doing and what are the stories of those being directly affected by the consequences of our actions?

We’re hardwired to deal with stories, narratives that help us understand our place in the world. Getting involved with telling these stories is an important part of getting the people we interact with on a daily basis to understand the importance of coming together to solve these big, global problems.

In the end, your actions might speak louder than any words. Violent rebuttals and disbelief are something 16-year-old environmental activist Greta Thunberg has dealt with since before she became a household name. In an interview with the BBC, she explains that the idea is not to shame others and tell them how to live their lives but to let your own convictions drive your behaviour.

“The point,” she says, “is to create an opinion.” One that sends a message to others around you about the reality of the climate crisis and raises awareness of what you can do to help.

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